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I'm back...well sorta

Hello everyone, I'm back.


Medically speaking I am doing pretty fabulous.  I made it through the surgery.  i am recovering pretty fast and I am able to do a little more each day.  I was surprised by the level of pain I experienced while in the hospital and my first week home. It was much more painful that i imagined, but that is in the past now.  In addition, I did not realize how much after care i would need with my various cuts and stitches, but that too will pass.  My mom has been taking care of me and i know that I would not have made it through this without her.


I also realize that I do know myself well and as I suspected this has been the most emotionally difficult part of cancer treatment.  i struggled at times with the chemo and wrapping my head around having cancer but those were minor.  I am trying to slowly deal with everything, but it is very difficult and exhausting.  


i am planning to go to NC for a few weeks to recover there.  i don't think I can stand to be in my house anymore.  I have spent 90% of my life the past 10 months in my house.  i just can't do it right now.  i guess I need to escape my life to try to heal so I can move forward. 


i feel incredibly vulnerable and fragile right now.  AND I also have some feeling of achievement.     However, for the most part right now I feel numb.  Everything is a little too much right now, too heavy, too permenent, too emotional, too exposing, too conflicted.  I fear that I will not be able to switch from cancer fight or flight mode to a normal non-cancer life.  BUT right now it is all very fresh.  I have not had time to process everything and take the healthy steps to move forward.  I know deep down that I will be better in a few weeks, physically and mentally.  I am just stuck right now in the middle, struggling.  I chose to be honest with everyone and tell you how i am not doing so well emotionally right now because 1) I like being honest and 2) I may be oversensitive and may need extra care and patience from those in my life.   


Please don't worry.  As i said before, I will overcome this last part.  I will adjust back to "normal".   I will not allow the past year and cancer to either define me or hinder me in the future.  This experience will with time make me a more caring, understanding and loving person.  I just have to travel through some knee deep mud over the next few weeks to get there.  


Much love to everyone, thank you for your love, prayers and support.

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Anonymous said…
This is a big thank you to Rosie's friends that were so much help to me. When I was tired someone would stay for 7-8 hours and sometimes overnite. I could sleep better knowing that someone was there that could call me if I was needed. The meals were great. The love that poured over Rosie and me was great and will last a long time. God Bless you great beautiful friends. Love, Pam R.
October 1, 2008 at 12:41 PM
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